How to Become the Person You’ve Always Wanted to Be

The Mel Robbins Podcast

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Monday, 4 August 2025 - 1 hour 24 minutes

Today, you’ll learn how to stop playing small and step into the bigger life that’s waiting for you. 

You’ll learn how to stop shrinking, stop explaining, and start claiming what you want without guilt, apology, or second-guessing. 

Whether you’re coming out of a breakup, burnout, or just a version of life that no longer fits, this conversation will show you how to reinvent yourself from the inside out. 

You’ll hear what happens when you finally give yourself permission to live life the way you really want. 

Because let’s be honest: How many times have you talked yourself out of what you want… before you even tried to go get it? That job. That conversation. That version of yourself you know you’re capable of being. 

You feel the pull. 
But then comes the doubt. 
And you quietly decide, “That’s not for me.” 

This episode is here to challenge that. And change it. 

Mel sits down with Chelsea Handler, one of the most successful comedians of all time, a six-time #1 New York Times bestselling author, and someone who’s spent decades breaking rules, saying exactly what she thinks, and reinventing herself in public. 

But this is not the Chelsea you think you know. This conversation is about the version of Chelsea you haven’t seen – the woman who’s done the inner work, faced down regret, and come out the other side with more clarity, peace, and power than ever before. 

You’ll laugh. You might cry. And you will absolutely see yourself in this. 

If you’ve ever walked through life thinking “that would be nice… but not for me,” that ends today. 

This is the permission slip you’ve been waiting for. 

You’ll learn: 

-How to let go of the expectations, labels, and roles that aren’t yours anymore 

-What it means to claim what you want – and actually go get it 

-The mindset shift that makes true confidence possible 

-How to stop managing everyone else’s comfort and start living for you 

-What it really takes to stop caring what people think 
-How to pick yourself back up after regret, loss, or failure 

This conversation will challenge you. 

It will surprise you. 

And it will make you think differently about what you’re actually capable of. 

You have a reservoir of strength that you don’t even know about, and today you’re going to learn how to tap into it. 

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If you liked the episode, check out this one next: How to Stop Caring What People Think of You

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